Lack of trust
It’s not just cheating that breaks that all important trust, any form of lying or deceit can bring about the end of a relationship. Approximately one third of people say that a lack of trust was to be blamed for the end of their relationship. Even a small lie, can make it impossible for many people to continue on in a relationship.
Insecurity And Low Self Esteem
Insecurity is not a problem caused by the relationship. It is an issue that one or both partners have that they bring into the relationship.
It is an individual issue that needs to be addressed on an individual basis. Yet if it is not, it can wreak havoc on a relationship.
Low self esteem makes someone question their worthiness to be a part of the relationship, making them insecure and needy.
Then they become clingy, holding on tight and often suffocating their partner until they have had enough and leave.
This can cover a whole range of different things, but when two people’s goals and ambitions in life don’t coincide, then that can lead to irreconcilable friction in a relationship. This could be that he has no ambitions to further his career, but she is a career minded woman, or, of course, that one person wants to have children and the other does not. There are some things that just can’t be compromised on and that will, and should, lead to a breakup, or one person will be very unhappy.
Inability To Talk About The Relationship
A couple needs to be able to have a constructive discussion about the relationship and about each other.
Some people can’t handle this because it is too difficult and too uncomfortable. They go through the motions, hope everything is fine and just exist in the relationship day to day.
But without constructively discussing flaws, issues, difficulties and insecurities the little problems build into big problems and it all gets too hard.
Inequality in the relationship
One partner making all the decisions without consulting the other is also a common reason for couples breaking up. A relationship should be an equal partnership between two people and there should be no single person ‘in charge’. The very worst case of inequality would be where one partner has a controlling personality and that could be called abuse, which should never be tolerated in any form.
Money also regularly appears near the top of the most surveys on this subject. Money, though, is often a symptom of other underlying issues, such as lack of trust or lack of communication. The main money reasons given for breakups are, one partner controlling all the spending or a partner wasting money. The only way to avoid money becoming an issue within a relationship is to talk about it, agree what you will spend money on and be honest when money issues arise.
Expecting A Partner To Make You Happy
Individuals need to take charge of their own happiness in life. Yet many people don’t and they expect other things or other people, particularly romantic partners, to make them happy.
If you are relying on your girlfriend to fill an empty space then it won’t work. You have to fill the empty space yourself.
Inevitably if you rely on a partner to make you happy they won’t be able to live up to the task. This will cause friction and can eventually lead to a failed relationship.
Lack Of Desire To Find A Way To Make It Work
We all have some degree of innate instinct when it comes to relationships. But that is never enough. We have to work damn hard on relationships and a lot of it is a learning process. You are forced to confront your own shortcomings and do a lot of self reflection to make a relationship last the distance.
One of the key reasons why relationships fail is that one partner just doesn’t have the desire to gain the tools or do the required personal development to make things work.
They are lazy and want things to work with no effort on their part. Unfortunately relationships don’t work like that.