Top 5 Reason Couple kyon counselling ke liye aate hai..

adhik jaanane ke lie, hamane vivaah salaahakaar mis teena kee bhartee kee.

unake anusaar sheersh 5 kaaran jode vaastav mein paraamarsh ke lie aate hain.

Sanchar
sanchaar sabase aam mudda ho sakata hai jisake lie jode baaharee paraamarsh chaahate hain
kyonki yah unake rishton kee aantarik kaaryavaahee ke lie aavashyak hai, lekin ek-ek-ek 
baatacheet mein hamesha poora karana aasaan nahin hota hai. "agar ek ya donon log nahin sun
rahe hain ya niyamit roop se anajaan ya galat samajh rahe hain, to shaayad sanchaar ke saath 
ek mudda hai.

is mudde ko ek saath kaam karane ke lie, vah jodon ko "vaartaalaap ko dheema karane" ke lie 
protsaahit karatee hai. aisa karane ke lie, vah bataatee hai ki aapake saathee kya kahata hai,
use vaapas lena aur yahaan tak ​​ki pratibimbit karana taaki aap yah samajh saken ki aap samajh
gae hain ki aapaka saathee kya vyakt kar raha hai - aur isake vipareet - javaab dene se pahale.
jitana samay lagata hai utana samay len jitana aapako spasht karane kee aavashyakata nahin hai
ki pratyek vyakti kya kahata hai, lekin unaka kya matalab hai.

vah jodon ko dheemee gati se lene kee bhee salaah detee hai kyonki ye vaartaalaap naee 
jaanakaaree la sakata hai jo kisee saathee ke saath sangharsh karata hai ya jaanata hai aur
isalie prakriya karana mushkil hai. "yahaan tak ​​ki jo kuchh aapake rishte ya vyaktigat anubhav
ke baare mein spasht hai, vah sachamuch aapake saathee ke lie kuchh naya sansaadhit karane
jaisa ho sakata hai.

Money

kaee vivaahit jodon ke lie, paisa "rishte tumhaara kya hai" unake rishte mein ek garm mudda
ban sakata hai, hamesha vitteey jimmedaaree ko samaan roop se saajha karane mein anuvaad 
nahin karata hai. "mujhe pata hai ki jab log paise ke kaaran aate hain, to ve usee prshth par
nahin hain jahaan unakee vaastavik yathaarthavaadee vitteey sthiti hai," teena bataatee hain.
"ek vyakti ko lagata hai ki ve ek badatar sthiti mein hain, jabaki doosare ko lagata hai ki 
ve behatar sthiti mein hain. isalie donon log kuchh alag dekhate hain."

yahee vah jagah hai jahaan pareshaanee shuroo ho sakatee hai, isalie yah bhee hai ki teena 
ne ek doosare se poochhakar, jodon ko shuroo karane ka sujhaav diya "ham kahaan hain?" yah 
lambee baatacheet kee ek shrrnkhala ho sakatee hai, sirph ek hee nahin. unhonne kaha, 
"har kisee ke paas paise se alag rishta hota hai, jaise har kisee ke paas apanee maan ke
 saath alag rishta hota hai." "paise ke lie [pratyek] saathee ke rishton mein matabhedon ko
 spasht karane mein madad karane ke lie ek mahaan abhyaas paise ke lie ek patr likhana hai 
jaise ki yah ek vyakti hai jisake saath aap rishte mein hain.

teena ne ise kaee baar kiya hai aur pahale se hee dekha hai ki yah logon ko khud ko samajhane
mein madad karata hai aur paise kee aantarik pratikriya. yah vaastav mein na keval khud ko 
samajhane mein madad kar sakata hai, balki ek doosare ko bhee samajh sakata hai. 
patr abhyaas "dhan" se ek amoort avadhaarana ya lakshy ke roop mein dhyaan kendrit karata hai,
lekin vaastavik samay mein pratyek vyakti ko paise kee sthiti ka saamana karana padata hai.

Childrens

jabaki kaee jodon ko pata hai ki ve apane rishte mein bachchon ko jaldee se rakhana 
chaahate hain, jab ant mein hota hai, to yah rishte ko badalata hai - ek sakaaraatmak, 
lekin aksar thakaoo, raasta. teena ka kahana hai, "ek jode se parivaar hone mein sankraman
ek mushkil samay ho sakata hai jahaan rishte mein kaee punarlekh ho rahe hain aur pratyek 
bhaageedaar bhoomika nibhaata hai." "yah poore baal-paalan mein ek satat baatacheet ho 
sakatee hai." vah jodon ko ek doosare ke saath chhoone ke aadhaar par protsaahit karatee hai
ki pratyek bhaageedaar maata-pita aur parivaar ke sadasy ke roop mein kya anubhav kar raha
hai.

isake atirikt, teena jodon ko yah jaanana chaahatee hai ki rishte ke hisse ko "ek-doosare ko
jaanana" khatm ho gaya hai. isake bajaay, yah vikasit ho raha hai kyonki aap donon ek saath
baal yaatra yaatra ke maadhyam se jaate hain. vah kahatee hai, "pratyek vyakti ka apana
anubhav hoga, aur maata-pita hone ke naate apane pati / patnee ke apane anubhav ka anubhav
hoga." "anubhav rishte ka hissa ban jaata hai, lekin bachche abhee bhee rishte se alag hain."

aap jo yugal ke roop mein the, unhen santulit karane ke lie, teena bataatee hai, "apane 
bachchon se rishte ko alag rakhen. apane rishte ko ek jode ke roop mein poshit rakhen. prashn
par phir se vichaar karen: hamaare lie hamaare mooly kya hain, hamaare bachche, hamaare 
parivaar? "vah ek-doosare ke saath akele samay bitaane ke mahatv par jor detee hai, bhale
hee yah aapake bachchon ke sone ke baad sirph ek ya do ghante ho. teena kahate hain, 
"us bandhan ko bahaal karana jo aapake bachchon se alag hai." "yahaan tak ​​ki agar baatacheet 
bachchon ke baare mein hai, to is tathy par banaaya jaana chaahie ki aap apane bachchon se 
alag hain." yadi aap kar sakate hain, to teena jode ko "24 ghante kee taareekh" prakaar 
(vink vink) rakhane ke saath raat bhar ek saath bitaane ke lie protsaahit karatee hai.

aakhirakaar, vah maata-pita se kahatee hai, "apane anubhav ke baare mein sabhee bhaavanaon
ko mahasoos karen aur ek-doosare ke saath kamajor rahen. isaka matalab yah nahin hai ki ye 
bhaavanaen hamesha ke lie chalee rahengee, lekin isake maadhyam se baat karate rahen.
vaartaalaap ko mat roko kyonki yah daraavana hai .

Inlaws

oh haan, sasuraal vaalon. pratyek vivaahit jode mein unhen hota hai, aur yahaan tak ​​ki sabase
achchhe sasuraal sambandh kuchh bhaavanaatmak saamaan ke saath aa sakate hain. teena ka 
kahana hai, "aksar, jode ke rishte mein mukhy mudde vaastav mein jode ke gatisheel ke 
maadhyam se apane parivaaron ke saath khade ho sakate hain." "jab koee vyakti apane mool 
parivaar ke saath seema nirdhaarit nahin karata hai, to ve lagabhag apane aap ko apane 
saathee ke saath kaise vyavahaar kar rahe hain, is baare mein shikaayat karate hain.
" isase koee phark nahin padata ki vyaktigat saajheedaar apane parivaaron ke saath kya 
sambandh rakhate hain, vah jodon ko apane jode ke hud aur pratyek parivaar ke beech seema 
nirdhaarit karane mein ek ikaee ke roop mein kaam karane ke lie protsaahit karatee hai.

dobaara, baal-paalan ke saath, vah aapake parivaar ke saath aapake sambandhon kee khoj karane 
ko bhee protsaahit karatee hai. "kin saajhedaaron ko aksar yah nahin pata hota ki unaka 
parivaar us avasar ka upayog kaise kar sakata hai [apane parivaar ke sadasy ke saathee ko 
ekeekrt karane ke lie] bachche se adhik judaav mahasoos karane ke lie - adhik janajaateey 
aur kam sveekaar karane vaala ... ek vyakti jo naya aur alag hai. " yadyapi yah vyavahaar 
behosh ho sakata hai, lekin yah jode ke rishte ke lie samajhadaaree se haanikaarak ho sakata 
hai. teena ne jodon ko salaah dee hai ki aap paarivaarik kaaryakramon mein jaane se pahale 
charcha karen ki aapako pratyek ko samarthan ke lie kya chaahie, aap kaise trigar ho sakate 
hain, kya achchha lagata hai, aur kisake parivaar ke baavajood achchha mahasoos nahin hota 
hai. " jab aap ghar jaate hain, to vah jodatee hai ki jode ko unake anubhav ke baare mein 
baat karanee chaahie ki kya hua aur aap isase kya seekh sakate hain.

teena bataatee hai, "kabhee-kabhee logon ko yah nahin pata ki ve kis tarah se shaadee kar 
rahe hain." "... yah samajhane mein kaee saalon lag sakate hain ki us parivaar mein vaastav 
mein saajhedaar ke lie kya matalab hai, kyonki ve nahin jaanate ki unake saathee ke parivaar 
vaastav mein kitane adviteey aur vipareet hain, unake saathee vaastav mein hai, khaasakar 
yadi vah hamesha unake saamaany .  "isake sheersh par, ek saajhedaar ek saanskrtik roop se 
alag parivaar mein aa raha hai, jaise ki pahalee peedhee ke kisee bhee parivaar ke saath 
kisee any sanskrti ke prati nishtha ke saath, udaaharan ke lie, ise samajhane ke lie
" bahut kathin sandarbh "la sakata hai. "ummeedon ko sambodhit karane ke lie samay lena 
aur yathaarthavaadee kya ho sakata hai, lekin aakhirakaar [jode] jode ke lie ek aur adhik 
sveekaary aur ekajut rukh paida kar sakata hai."

Work

apane sasuraal vaalon kee tarah, kaam ek aur baaharee shakti hai jo kisee jode ke rishte ke 
aantarik kaaryon par apratyaashit vinaash ko khatm kar sakatee hai. jab yah tanaavapoorn ho 
jaata hai, to yah aapake jeevan mein har cheej ko ovararaid kar sakata hai aur aapako apanee 
any praathamikataon se samajhauta kar sakata hai. teena bataatee hai, "kaam kuchh saajhedaar 
ho sakata hai ki doosara atyadhik pratibaddh hai, jaise ki ve apane kaam se vivaahit hain - 
unake saathee nahin." "... kaam mein bahut saaree saamaajik sanskrtiyaan hain jo aapako 
mahasoos ho sakatee hain ki aapako phit hone aur utkrshtata ka ek hissa banane kee 
aavashyakata hai, jo bahut samay le sakata hai, aapake saathee kee tulana mein alag-alag 
mooly hain, ya aapake mool roop se jode kee tarah."

yahaan tak ​​ki jab kaam achchhee tarah se chal raha hai, tab bhee yah aapake lie ek jode ke 
roop mein pahan sakata hai. udaaharan ke lie, yadi ek saathee ko asthaayee samay ke lie 
paagal lambe samay tak kaam karane ke lie kaha jaata hai, lekin phir us samay seema ko 
drshti mein koee ant nahin kiya jaata hai, to barnaut rishte ko prabhaavit karana shuroo 
kar dega. phlipasaid par, yadi ek saathee ko padonnati milatee hai, to shuruaatee 
sakaaraatmak parinaam aur vitteey laabh ho sakate hain, lekin antatah yah is baat ka 
sangharsh kar sakata hai ki yah naya kaam ab aur deerghakaalik sambandhon ko kaise 
prabhaavit karata hai.

isake atirikt, teena ka kahana hai, "kaam ke lie yaatra, kaaryasthal aur doosare raajy ya 
desh mein sthaanaantarit hona ek jode ke lie bada tanaav ho sakata hai." kabhee-kabhee 
yah dooree nahin hai, lekin kareebee kvaartar jo sambandhon mein sangharsh paida karate 
hain. "jodon jo ek saath kaam karate hain, kabhee-kabhee santulit rahane ke lie apane 
rishte ke vibhinn hisson kee vyavastha kaise karen, is baare mein ulajhan mein pad sakate 
hain."

jab kaam achchhee tarah se nahin chal raha hai, to yah bhee "ek jode ke lie vinaashakaaree 
ho sakata hai", teena ke anusaar. vah bataatee hai, "yah dekh sakata hai ki ve apane rishte 
mein kaise hain, saath hee vyaakhya ek vyakti ke baare mein achchhee tarah se nahin kar 
rahee hai." "keval vyakti ke bajaay vyakti ke kariyar par arth jode jode jaate hain.
" in neech muddon ke maadhyam se kaam karane ke lie, vah jodon ko khud se poochhane ke 
lie protsaahit karatee hai: "yah naukaree anubhav hamen sistam ke roop mein kaise prabhaavit 
karata hai? ham kya chaahate hain? vyaktigat roop se, kya yah mere mooly pranaalee ke saath 
gathabandhan hai? kya yah hamaare mooly pranaalee ke saath gathabandhan hai joda? ek parivaar 
ke roop mein? " in savaalon ke sahee ya galat javaab koee aasaan ya nahin hain. kunjee 
ek saath uttaron ka pata lagaana shuroo kar raha hai.

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